Bought Abby and Luke chat online. But they are going to. The only thing she cares about anymore is talking to Luke, a guy she met online, who understands. Then Luke asks her to meet him, and she does. When Abby goes missing, everyone is left to put together the pieces. Shut Out by Kody Keplinger. The Meme Plague by Angie Smibert. Her Dark Curiosity by Megan Shepherd. Becoming Jinn by Lori Goldstein. Being Sloane Jacobs by Lauren Morrill. Ask Again Later by Liz Czukas. The Promise of Amazing by Robin Constantine.
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Almost any huge danger comes unexpectedly, because it was there all the time, it just never occured to you that it was creeping all the way. What do these people have in common? I'm not implying you have to never trust anyone, but some common sense and healthy awareness won't harm.
So now, even though you've declined my suggestion to skip the paragraph, you might still be wondering: Just tell me why in the world you gave it 1 star and get lost. But bear with me for one more moment. Building trust online is a very difficult process, because it obviously takes much more time and effort. Chats, photos, videos, phone conversations In our precious world of technology you can not only create a new personality, but also fabricate literally anything.
So why do so many people go missing because of the people they "met" online, if they have the same lecture I'm kind of "giving" right now? Because as trust starts to build, as days, months, years pass, they start to forget all the Internet Safety rules. So here's the part that finally! Abby and Luke had from 3 to 4 small conversations, before she started to reveal a really private information. I know literally nothing about 14 y. So I started counting. I started counting how exactly many messages Luke sent Abby, before he started asking questions that would make any sensible person suspicious.
Let's count together, shall we? Keep in mind they're usually pretty short. Luke's messages in Public Chat: From now on all the messages are in Private Chat Luke's messages Do I really need to tell you I lost it here? Because I so did. Why the fuck would you tell your bra size to some weirdo you met online?
Or maybe I missed the part, where I was told it was all Victoria's Secret customer service, and Luke was just trying to find a bra that fits Abby, so she can have a cute gift for herself? If that's so, my apologies!
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But as far as I'm concerned, that's not the case. Because you'll never meet him? For fuck's sake, were you even listening? But well, I guess, they don't even tell people not to answer these questions, because it's fucking obvious! There's nothing really suspicious about Luke except for his fucking weird phrases and questions, of course , he indeed looks like a 27 y. So basically a guy twice her age tells her she's "the hottest chick he's seen in a long time". What's the sensible reaction I'm still trying to see Abby as a sensible girl, even though I finished reading the book, and trust me, she's not?
Well, definitely not the one Abby has. I feel warm all over. But wait, there's more. I'd be jealous if you had a lot of guys around you Abby's reaction? Strange, but kind of flattering and nice. Is this the kind of generation we'll see in a while raised by Fifty Shades of Grey?
I can go on and on reciting all the messages they sent each other, but I hope you got the point. I don't want and I honestly don't believe that after 3 conversations and only 53 messages a sane girl would tell all this shit to some weirdo she knows nothing about apart from his name and age. I would believe it, if they were talking for at least 3 or 4 months, I don't know, but 3 days? Three little conversations full of emojis and stuff? And of course, after this chat she notices the age in his profile. I thought he said 27?
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But who the fuck cares? And then Luke disappears for a while. What does Abby do? Hangs out with her friends? Focuses on her studies? Our sweet little Abby can't focus on anything , because she's already attached to Luke. Please, don't tell me that the younger you are, the faster you get attached to the person. Even though Abby's friends are here for her — Faith actually invites her to spend some time together, the guy from her class invites her to see a movie — she wants Luke.
So no wonder she cries herself to sleep, because she misses him. The most amazing part is yet to come: I'm pretty sure you've already guessed that Abby fucking gave it, 'cause "she's heard it wasn't the best idea during those Internet Safety lectures", but what can possibly go wrong? Luke wants to send her a phone after all! But phones don't come for free, do they? Of course, Luke deserves some prize.
Like Abby's topless photo. Honestly, I'm fucking tired writing all those "and you know what Abby does U cannot believe how hard I am rite now looking at u. I could break a freaking door down with my cock. His words are exciting and scary at the same time. They make me feel older, more grownup, powerful. But at the same time, part of me wants to run downstairs and snuggle up on the sofa between my parents and watch a movie and eat popcorn like a little girl.
Then go and eat your fucking popcorn! If you feel that something isn't right, well, maybe that's finally your brain cells start coming alive?
Nothing suspicious, huh, smart girl? I'm not blaming the victim right now, but I am telling "how could you be so dumb? I understand the point Sarah Darer Littman was trying to make — anyone, even smart girls that get only A's can get into this trap — but I'm sorry, this is so un-fucking-believable. And the problem isn't only in Abby. While mass media try to tell us how clever predators nowadays are, the novel shows us Luke — the guy that doesn't really even try to pretend to be an ordinary guy, doesn't really try to build some kind of trust, it just happens after 20 messages and some cheesy phrases.
I'm sure there are pervs like this, but again, what will people think after reading this novel? Nah, that will never happen to me, because I'll never give my address after 5 conversations? I'll never get naked on camera for the guy I met 2 days ago? I'll never have virtual sex with a random guy who says he loves me? Because I'm not as stupid as Abby?
Maybe I am taking this book way too serious, but even if we forget about the lesson it tried to teach, was I supposed to be entertained? Was it supposed to make me think? The only thing this book made me think about is how fucking unbelievable the situation is.
She feels like an adult. And this "adult" runs away with "Luke" 2 months later after a conflict with her parents: I don't feel like retelling all the plot, but basically she "gets raped" but not really, since she kind of didn't mind, she was drunk, though , when 2 days later the police officers stop their car and handcuff 32 y. And that's where I lost it again, because after Abby's return her little sister Lily that was really worried when Abby was gone worries mostly about "people at her school that we'll see her as this girl, whose older sister willingly ran away with some perv and got raped".
And I'm not talking about characters being even more stupid than they've already been that wouldn't be really all that surprising. Because the last chapter was the best chapter in the novel. I wouldn't need to write this really huge review full of ranting, if the whole book consisted only of the last chapter and some kind of draft about previous events. Appreciate your mistakes for what they are: This review is so very different from what I originally planned to write and, obviously, much longer , and even though the novel failed miserably, I can't stick to the funny-ranting-voice by the end of it.
Talk to your younger siblings, kids, friends. Be there for them. Try to build these trusting relationships, so they won't need to look for them outside. And always be careful, because you never really know what can possibly go wrong. View all 19 comments. Aug 05, Lisa rated it liked it Shelves: I do think that the message is important and that teens should definitely be wary and super careful when it comes to communicating with strangers on the internet.
However, to begin with I think this idea could've been written sooo much better. It was an idea I haven't seen in Y. A so I was intrigued by it. They made it a bit after school special for my taste. After reading "But I love him" by Amanda Grace, this falls fla 3 and a half stars It's a bit hard for me to write a review on this, in a way.
After reading "But I love him" by Amanda Grace, this falls flat. Just because "But I love him" tackled abusive relationships in a different way than I've ever seen. It actually built the character of the abuser so you could understand better why he was abusive, as well as showing why the girl didn't want to leave him. I found the "Luke" character to be flat and lame.
I would've liked to see the relationship between Luke and Abby to be better written. It seemed stupid to me. Their conversations were all "OMG" and completely mindless, really. It would've been impressive if the author actually showed "Luke" as more magnetic or likeable. I know you're thinking "What are you talking about? Also, in comparison to Billy, he was even more bland. I really quite liked Billy. He wasn't amazing but I was rooting for the kid.
I wanted the author to explore the subject better. It was disappointing the way she did it. It's an important subject, obviously and I think it could've been approached differently. The writing itself wasn't impressive to me. Again, after reading "But I love him" just a couple of days ago, I can't help but compare it to this.. It also explored the subject of abusive relationships in this amazing way, while this book didn't really explore.
It didn't give me that little something extra. I will admit I felt sympathy for Abby for what she went through and having to deal with the after effects of it all. I even teared up a couple of times because I felt sad for her. But it was overall disappointing. I had such high hopes for it too! On an end note to this review, I wanted to explain why I said it was a bit hard for me to write a review on this.
In February , by chance, I met my current boyfriend in a random chat room. I was bored and just wanted someone to talk to and after talking to a bunch of weirdos, freaks and pervs, I met him. We hit it off right away. Over the course of three months, we talked online almost every day and began to care about each other. It doesn't sound romantic to some people but it really was. Then I decided to meet him in London Heathrow airport and spent two weeks with him, just being together and doing some tourist-y things. The hardest, saddest day of my life was when I had to leave him.
Now, I live in England with him and I'm still a puddle around him. He's so witty and makes me laugh all the time. I do agree that the internet is a risky place to meet people but sometimes it happens. Teenagers should obviously avoid talking to strangers just because there are predators out there.
In general, it's risky talking to strangers. In MY case, it happened to be a love story but it wasn't planned at all. The internet is like the real world, sometimes. There are bad people out there but there are also genuinely amazing people who make you laugh and smile. You just have to be careful with who you trust and who you let in.
I'm just rambling now. I read this for the first time on August 18th, I re-read it today, which is February 22nd, I hate how you can't add multiple dates for which you read a book. I like to re-read books now and then but I also like to keep track of how many books I read using the Book Challenge thing. But I can't have this book in both my Challenge and my Challenge.
So, I think I'll change the date to today to count for this year's challenge. Anyways, the review above was written on August 18th, After reading it a second time, I thought it was slightly better and I'll tell you why. I watched a movie called "Trust" a couple of months ago. It is a movie about a teenage girl who meets a guy online and after a while, she meets him. The movie deals with her and her family dealing with the situation.
I thought it was a brilliant movie. I really recommend it to anyone interested in this subject. People help the police by pretending to be teenagers and they find predators and sex offenders. The website shows the conversations that these perverts have with who they think are teenagers and after reading a few and re-reading this book, I can see similarities.
I guess that made me less angry about the lack of actual conversation and the building of the relationship between Abby and "Luke" because in real life, pedaphiles don't really go for deep conversations. They are just trying to get teenagers to do sexual things. Anyways, for anyone wanting to know more on the subject of "grooming" or internet predators, I suggest watching the movie "Trust" and maybe checking out the perverted-justice website.
I'll warn you, the perverted-justice website is pretty disturbing but I think it's something every parent should be aware of. I think every parent should be extremely aware about the dangers of the internet because it's so easy for a teenager to unknowingly fall into the trap of a predator. This book was a bit better the second time I read it but I think I stand by my rating. Wow - one of the scariest contemporary YA novels I've read in a long time. BlueSkyBoi made my blood boil whenever he said anything to Abby because he's just so manipulative and disturbing.
Also, while it's easy for an adult or teen to say that they wouldn't fall for the things he says, I really believe that it's easy for young people to get caught up in the way Abby does. They've all been told not to talk to strangers, but the people they meet online don't feel like strangers anymore, and in the Wow - one of the scariest contemporary YA novels I've read in a long time. View all 3 comments. Dec 05, Laura rated it it was amazing. Want to Go Private is a realistic and powerful look into the reality of teens and the temptation of "meeting" new people online. Being from a generation where AIM was new and exciting, it was very tempting to talk to random people, esp.
Abby feel a victim to that in this novel, and I think this book is not only powerful but necessary in a time where social networking Want to Go Private is a realistic and powerful look into the reality of teens and the temptation of "meeting" new people online. Abby feel a victim to that in this novel, and I think this book is not only powerful but necessary in a time where social networking sites are all the rage, and children and teens of all ages have access and the knowledge to use such internet sites as Facebook and Myspace, etc.
I think most people have the "it would never happen to me" mentality, but I think anyone can fall victim to an online predator esp. Abby starts talking to Luke, and he understands her like nobody else does. What starts off as an innocent online friend, becomes something so much more as through their conversations Abby starts trusting Luke more and more and believes that she is falling in love with him.
Only when he gains that trust does the conversation change to a more sexually explicit nature and Abby falls victim to the online "love" that she thinks she has found. Overall, I couldn't put this novel down, I felt for Abby, where at a time she felt alone and that nobody in the world could understand her, she fell victim to Luke's games.
I wanted to know what happened to Abby, and if her "love" for Luke would ultimetly lead to her deciding to meet him in real life. Jul 15, Mark rated it liked it Shelves: This review has been hidden because it contains spoilers.
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To view it, click here. If you thought the first day of high school was bad, try going back after you ran away with some guy you met online who turned out not to be the loving person you thought he was, but was actually a creep and a perv who was chatting up lots of other girls. I feel breakfast coming up the back of my throat. Her best friend isn't in any of her classes, so they begin to drift apart.
Her home life is complicated by her younger sister, and her parents, who don't always provide the support that Abby needs, yet can't articulate. But when she meets Luke in an online chat room, Abby finds someone who does listen to her, and does understand what she's going through. Sure, she's heard the normal warnings about online relationships, but Luke lives in another state, and seems nice, so there really doesn't seem to be any harm in just chatting. But chatting quickly leads to more, and before long, Abby is making plans to skip school and spend the day with Luke, and that's where things go off the rails.
Luke kidnaps and sexually abuses Abby, but through the quick work of the police force, and her friends, she is returned to her family. Then comes the day when she must return to school, and face the stares and whispers about her. I think I wanted to like this book more than I did. It's a great premise, which is why I picked it up in the first place, but the plot seems very predictable. I can certainly understand how online predators can quickly gain the trust of a teen, but in this case, it still seems to happen too suddenly, especially for a narrator who claims to know all about that possibility.
Some of the characters are very stereotypical, such as Abby's father, and his reactions seem pretty flat. The finale, where Abby discusses her abduction with the entire school, also seems a little contrived, mainly because it feels like the book is preaching to me at that point. In fact, it preaches a lot, to the point where some sections feel like a cautionary pamphlet about online predators. Good premise, but poor execution in this one, at least for me.
View all 4 comments. It is not my habit to negatively review books, as I can generally find value in anything I read, but I have to be honest, I hated this book and I don't know how it got published. If you are looking to read this book because you think there's a mystery to solve, or intrigue surrounding the disappearance of the main character, back away now, because this is not the book for you. If you want to read a poorly written after-school special, well then, this is the book for you. I really thought I was goin It is not my habit to negatively review books, as I can generally find value in anything I read, but I have to be honest, I hated this book and I don't know how it got published.
I really thought I was going to read a plot driven novel, and instead I was thrown into trying to care about characters that are completely shallow and flat. And while I give any author who has made it to publication a minute round of applause for sticking to it - I have to wonder why there are seemingly no editors involved in this creation. The chat speak lingo was beyond painful to read, and the author's use of descriptive language was lacking and repetitive.
All in all, I have to say this book was an incredible waste of time, but since I can't leave this review without something positive to say - I will say it does illustrate how internet predators work, and how it can be easy to fall for their manipulation. View all 6 comments. Apr 16, Deanna rated it really liked it. When I saw my friend, Shelby's review of this book, I just knew I had to read it. Right from the authors dedication at the beginning of the book I was hooked.
I can't even imagine the horrible things they have to look at every day. The dedicated men and women who not only put their lives but also their sanity on the line for us. Plus anyone else that helps children either by intervening before something happens or taking care of them after something has happened. Nurses, Counselors, Psychiatrists, Teachers, Social workers, public speakers on Internet safety the list goes on. And to the dedicated parents who are trying their best to protect their children.
She doesn't want her friendship with her best friend to change because they won't be in the same classes. She feels like she doesn't fit in. Abby thinks her parents want her to be perfect and feels sometimes like they don't love her for who she is. To her it feels like everyone is always telling her to do her hair or make up "to make an effort". She just wants things to stay the same and feels like no one understands her. Then she meets Luke online. He agrees that her parents are too hard on her and that her best friend should be paying more attention to her.
She feels like Luke is the only one who truly gets her.
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When Luke tells her that he's older than her, at first she is nervous, but he helps alleviate all those fears. Saying things like boys her age would never understand her Abby has had those Internet safety talks at school and she knows that he could be some year-old dude in the basement somewhere, but she figures it's not like she's ever going to meet him.
However, soon Luke is all that Abby can think about. And after a particularly bad fight with her parents, Luke asks her to meet him and Abby decides to go They still have that "it will never happen to me" thinking. Maybe not every single teenager would make some of the decisions that Abby made, but some would. Predators are experts, they know what they're looking for, they know how to talk, and especially how to "groom".
Although it may seem that things move fast in the book, teenagers really do move that fast sometimes. Their brains have not stopped growing and they don't always think things through. They are living in a world that many of the adults I know don't understand all I have to do is look on Facebook.
Even though they may have had Internet safety talks at school there still needs to be more education. I have a teenage daughter and some of the things she tells me blows my mind. I feel lucky that she is so open with me and I really hope that never changes. The only thing she cares about anymore is talking to Luke, a guy she met online, who understands. It feels dangerous and yet good to chat with Luke--he is her secret, and she's his.
Then Luke asks her to meet him, and she does. But Luke isn't who he says he is. When Abby goes missing, everyone is left to put together the pieces.