It seems like we get into desperate situations because the choices that we have to make to get out of them seem equally scary or unpleasant. The fear of the unknown begins to outweigh the pain of the known. I hate my job, but if I leave it, maybe my next job will be worse. When I weighed career failure against uncomfortable business calls, those calls became much easier. But important enough to get me through it. When I weighed being alone for the rest of my life against the anxiety of dating, I pushed myself to step out of my comfort zone and flirt.
This is the thinking that helps people overcome addiction. If your next situation is worse, then you can always leap again. Yes, it would be lovely to have the guarantee that every choice you make would bring immediate positive results. But sometimes you have to make a series of choices to get to where you want to go.
You have to leap from rock to rock to get to the other side of the river. Where there is life there is hope. I have a private practice in Encino and Calabasas.
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It is so difficult! Sometimes you have to take a break and sort it out. Once you learn this mindfulness and learn to let things that are hurting you go, you will feel at peace and ready to move on. Thank you for sharing a small piece of your story with us too. Sending prayers of strength your way. Words cannot express my gratitude for this post. Recent past behavior and selfish thinking may have potentially cost me the most important relationship — a person that I deeply love yet have hurt terribly.
And while I can accept the thoughts expressed in many of your other posts, I find myself in a very dark place right now full of guilt, remorse, sadness for having treated another so badly.
This post has opened my eyes to forgive myself, while still sad for hurting others. This post is a wonderful opportunity to take a first step to get unstuck and embark on my desperate journey for change. I too need to embark on my desperate journey for change. Stay present, and work on what you can control going forward. Reading your blog and trying to follow some of your centering and grounding path has helped me turn my life around from the same rat race.
I have referred your blog and still keep doing it whenever I get a chance. God bless your family and may the light always shine bright so it may light up other peoples heart. I like to try to keep a playful mindset.
We often get so caught up in life we lose that sense of play, that beginners mind we had when we were kids. Work and play do not have to be exclusive of one another. And I could not get to what the crux of what my issue was or how to get myself out of it. That led to a bit of a rant — very emotional — and in what spilled out of me, I had a huge epiphany.
I realized what was truly holding me back. And with that, everything changed. I am feeling so at peace now and have written up a new action plan that I feel really good about. Thank you — what you do makes a difference — today it made all the difference in the world to ME. Change can actually come in massive chunks; and, occur rapidly. Sometimes, I would offer, that compressing time to move the process forward is very beneficial and in fact, is very much okay to do. You have just described my life over the past 3 months. Reading this felt as though you were taking a peek inside my life, my brain.
Spinning, spiraling, going just to go. It will stop NOW. I hit the wall a couple weeks ago and backed out of two commitments that took up a lot of my time. Now, I feel like I need to refocus my energy, use the tips you have provided, and begin to chart my path forward to a new destination. There is sadness over some things that will have to be left behind but I think it will be worth it in the end.
I look forward to the possibility of feeling freedom and happiness instead of the constant crushing depression that I am stuck where I am, afraid of waking up tomorrow to the same as today. Thank you guys for yet another thought provoking post! Your motivational words have been helping me make some serious amendment in my life. I am eliminating the noise and focusing on the meaningful. Thank you……for opening my eyes….
I think of Marc and Angel…. I told them I need my space to run my life instead of them running my life. Thanks for the specific and insightful steps! This article was so timely in my life. The Serenity Prayer is something I constantly have to affirm and meditate in my mind daily. However, there are days that become more and more trying, reading this article today allows me to take not only one moment at a time, but also, take one situation at a time. I am a life coach, however, I am human and have to deal with the human experiences just like my clients do.
Each one, Teach one, Reach one. How prophetic was this post. I have been struggling to make a decision about a career change, like you, I wanted to be passionate about my career and yes I did feel stuck. The universe has been giving me signs, for several years to make a change, but I stubbornly chose to ignore them. Well, this past week the universe had to get tough, I was placed on unpaid leave, because I had a complaint filed against me. My response was relief, peace, some sadness, excited about possibilities, and then sitting down and reviewing what I really want in a career.
I no longer have a choice to make a career transition or feel stuck. Instead of feeling scared or depressed, I no longer feel stuck, but I feel confident that t I will find a fulfilling new position. Thank you for all the great articles!
5 Things to Remember When You’re Stuck and Desperate for a Change
Glad I googled again! Been feeling a bit out of sorts over the last few days. Others are treading the same path, if just a bit ahead or behind. I am considering making a move from where I live. I live in a condo complex; and been living there for 15 years. In the last few years, I have not enjoyed living there. Mostly because I feel like I have bad neighbors. I am 58 years old, single, no kids, and live alone. Everyone else at the complex are either coupled or in a family. I have a good friend who objects for me to make the move. I checked out a seniors place a couple of times and was very impressed.
I would consider selling my place and rent. I could accumulate money and maybe be with more like-minded people for me. But I feel miserable staying at where I am. I have reminded my friend many times that I had left where I came from; and there was a lot of opposition in doing that. I told him that maybe someone will tell me that when I move into another place. Thank you for your insight and writings. Truly appreciate the wisdom shared in this post. At 59 transitioning from corporate life where busyness and chaos are the norm to entrepreneurial dream chasing has been challenging.
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The encouragement to remember my purpose, give space for change and growth, journaling, relationship that pull you back or move you forward, and taking consistent and realistic action. Wisdom ad encouragement I needed for my self and my family. Thank you Dwight L. I come to your blog for insight on a daily basis, it really helping me to realize that my past toxic attitude and behavior has been my real problem…which I hope to gradually get rid of completely.
We my husband and I have been gradually making changes to move towards the life we want with our children. When I take the time to evaluate all we have done-career changes, revamping and expanding an existing business, then trying to scale back our time at work- I can really appreciate the struggles and the successes.
Action is the most difficult part but the only way to move and change. Your email address will not be published. When you learn a new way to think, you can master a new way to be Blog About Events Book. Getting Back to Happy. No matter how rough your life gets, you can always turn it around. Meaningful daily reminders make growth and positive change easier. But you can also take it a step further than that too… Few good things come easy, and when the going gets tough we often take the easy way out — even though the easy way takes us the wrong way. The space between the things you do is just as important as the things you do.
Journaling is a priceless tool for self-reflection and self-improvement. Rowling keeps a journal. Eminem keeps a journal. Oprah keeps a journal. The wrong relationships pull you back — the right ones push you forward. Taking consistent and realistic action every day sets you free. All details aside, when it comes to making a substantial change in your life — earning a new degree, building a new business, fostering a new relationship, starting a family, becoming more mindful, or any other personal journey that takes time and commitment — one thing you have to ask yourself is: Your turn… If you can relate to this post, remember, you are NOT alone.
This is timeless wisdom everyone should live by!